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🧿 Psychology
How toxic am I?
1 in 5 people show high-toxicity patterns.
Rate each statement 1 (strongly disagree) to 5 (strongly agree). Your score updates live.
1I sometimes give the silent treatment when I'm upset.
2I've guilt-tripped someone to get what I want.
3I keep score of favors and bring them up later.
4I tend to talk about people behind their back.
5I make sarcastic comments that actually sting.
6I focus more on problems than solutions.
7I dismiss other people's feelings when they conflict with mine.
8I expect friends to prioritize me but don't always return it.
9I've taken credit for something that wasn't fully mine.
10I get jealous when friends succeed without me.
What makes someone "toxic"?
Toxic behavior describes recurring patterns that harm people around you — manipulation, negativity, selfishness, and emotional unavailability. Research by Morin (2021) found that 1 in 5 people exhibit high-toxicity patterns without realizing it.
The three pillars of toxicity
- Manipulation (items 1-3): Silent treatment, guilt-tripping, and score-keeping are control tactics, not communication
- Negativity (items 4-7): Gossip, sarcasm, problem-focus, and emotional dismissal drain everyone around you
- Selfishness (items 8-10): One-sided expectations, credit-stealing, and envy signal a self-centered pattern
Population norms
- Average score: 22/50 — most people have some mildly toxic habits
- High toxicity (top 15%): Score 35+ out of 50
- Very low (bottom 15%): Below 14 — genuinely supportive and self-aware
- Self-reported toxicity tends to be underestimated — if you scored high, take it seriously
Note: Everyone has occasional toxic moments. This measures patterns, not isolated incidents. The goal is awareness, not shame.